Over the past ten
years, the Internet has become so firmly entrenched in our lives that we can
hardly imagine how we used to live without it. "We'll write off on
ICQ", "throw off the soap", "I'll browse the network"
- these and other expressions accurately reflect our network life.
Human nature is such
that first of all, he adapts new technologies to satisfy his sexual needs. The
invention of photography and video filming immediately led to the emergence of
erotic and pornographic photographs and films, the telephone - to sex on the
phone, vulcanization - to the production of condoms, the study of hormones - to
new types of contraception.
The emergence of the
WWW could not fail to reflect the basic interest of humanity. Erotic and
pornographic sites, dating sites "for friendship and correspondence",
webcams - there are proposals to satisfy any request for every taste, a new
type of relationship has appeared - sex over the Internet.
What reasons lead
people to seek virtual sexual experiences? Obviously, there are several of them. Probably the
most common is dissatisfaction with one's sexual relations or increased libido
(a strong sexual constitution coupled with the difficulties of its
implementation in real mode). Another reason is curiosity, the search for new
knowledge.
The sites offer many toys, stimulants, accessories
with home delivery, here you can also learn about poses, methods, types of
satisfaction, get acquainted with the Kama Sutra, tantric sex, and other manuals
on sexual techniques. Oftentimes, online dating pushes people to a feeling of
loneliness. You can register on the Glasgow escorts site and you will
receive letters and it seems like loneliness will go away. In the waves of sex
over the Internet, jealousy and the desire to take revenge on your partner can
push.
There are probably
many other reasons that induce people to seek sexual entertainment on the
Internet. Sex over the Internet is open around the clock, you can hide behind a
nickname and change your gender. It is interesting to note that according to
research, men prefer to watch various pictures, while women prefer to
participate in chat rooms.
As a rule, the most
active users of such resources are people who do not have a wide social circle.
They prefer work related not to people, but to signs and symbols. But they feel
that some part of life and communication is passing by, but since it is scary
to go out into the world, they prefer to do it safely.
For someone, it
becomes a lifestyle, for someone a pleasant entertainment, relaxation, release
from the accumulated sexual energy. For many, it is a textbook, for others,
salvation from loneliness. But in the end, sex over the Internet still loves
alone, love for your ideal, and not for your real partner.
It may be objected
that all this can be described in words. You can describe it, but you can't
smell it, taste it, touch it with your hand. Of course, with the development of
technology, new technologies appear, and now there are special clothes, gloves,
underwear, helmets for visualization, which help to more fully experience
sexual sensations.
This is very helpful
for those who need to open up, loosen up, free themselves from tightness. But
it seems to me that all these adaptations do not play into the hands of those
who need real human communication. This is not a problem, but a bad solution to
the problem.
Of course, in the
process of sex on the Internet, you can introduce yourself as anyone, come up
with any life story and endow yourself with any qualities. But will this help
to solve deep psychological problems, to resolve existential questions, to save
from depression? It seems to me that in most cases, leaving real money will
only exacerbate all these problems even more. Replacing a real partner with a
virtual one may begin to take on a clinical connotation.
There is another
problem with sex over the Internet. He's too accessible. And especially for
children. Why hide the fact that our modern children are much better educated
technically than we are. What makes me an hour (how the new program works, how
to connect a mobile phone to a computer, how to download music to a flash
drive), my teenage daughter decides in 10 minutes. And our children have very
easy access to all sex materials.
On the one hand, it
is a source of information on sexual matters for adolescents. In the virtual
space, you can ask any question, find information on any exciting topic. But,
on the other hand, this information is unfiltered. There is a danger that all
these naked aunts and uncles will be disgusted and form the wrong attitude
towards human sexuality. Their curiosity will be satisfied too early and the
phenomenon of depreciation will arise.
In addition, it
plays the same negative role as low-quality love films, glamorous magazines,
romance novels, where love and sexual relations are described from the point of
view of some ideal, which must be equal. In them, the hero and the heroine
reach orgasm from the first time, they all have ideal figures, in general,
everything is slicked, smoothed, and adjusted to the stereotypes of mass
culture.
And those features
of a teenage character, which could come to naught with age, are accentuated,
acquire convex outlines. And can lead to sexual pathologies. Misconceptions
about yourself, your body, about your sex life, which in turn can lead to
depression, dissatisfaction, and other sexual disorders.
Going into the
virtual world seems like a good way out of real-life problems. There you can
safely tickle your nerves and catch up on adrenaline, there is no danger of
contracting venereal or other diseases, and you can only be raped with your
consent. A person does not need to think about how he looks and what he says.
Usually, speech in
sex chats is very uniform and poor. By and large, sex over the Internet is not
much different from the same Playboy or porn films. But it is much more
accessible, almost free, and absolutely anonymous (well, except for those cases
when a partner is suddenly caught)
Oddly enough, but
with all the richness of human fantasies, sex sites abound in a fairly similar
series of images of blondes with curvaceous clips in the spirit of German porn.
The language of sentences is the same type, far from any literary.
Usually, the 12 Step
program is used to treat Internet addictions, but in the modern world, it is
almost impossible to resist using the Internet. So far, there are no
longitudinal observations of such addicts.
At first, sex over
the Internet seems like something new and interesting. But then over time, it
starts to pall. In fact, there is nothing new in it. All sites are similar to
one another, the effect of novelty quickly disappears, the range of services is
monotonous. There is no real human unpredictability in him. And normally, a
keen interest in virtual sex gradually fades to a certain level. It is
sometimes used, along with other erotic products, to revive sensations, to give
a theme to fantasies.
Sex over the
Internet is generally incorporeal sex. Naturally, there is masturbation, but
this is sex with oneself.
Virtual sex itself
cannot create psychological problems. But at receptions, people are
increasingly mentioning the problems they think are caused by online sex. It is
like a litmus paper that manifests the already existing latent problems
associated with loneliness, inability to build real relationships, self-doubt,
the ability to position oneself - i.e. all that is where you need to imagine
yourself alive.
In addition to the
danger of being disconnected from real life, sex over the Internet carries
another danger - a criminal one. This is the spread of child pornography and
pedophilia. Since the global network is poorly subject to control by law
enforcement agencies, it makes possible the distribution of prohibited
materials.
For people with
unconventional inclinations, unusual sexual preferences, sex over the Internet
can be a great helper. Such a client understands that he is not alone in his
non-standard tastes and this helps him to free himself from feelings of guilt,
to stop suffering from remorse that he is not like everyone else. That there
are other people of the same kind and entire communities with similar
preferences, you can talk to them on equal terms and stop feeling like an
outcast. Awareness alone can already have a therapeutic effect and allows you
to accept yourself as you are. Here, no one will catch you with a young and
pretty girlfriend and tell your wife.
We must remember
that the virtual space itself is impersonal and neutral. It is we people who
give it meaning and endow it with various qualities.